Hi everyone! I am Iryna. I think it is a good time for a proper introduction!
I have been looking into EM since August 2020, but only now decided to really join the forum. I am 30y/o, I grew up in Ukraine, but have been living in beautiful Colorado, USA since 19y/o. I am mostly a stay at home mom with a 3y/o son. I also work part time at a furniture store, which is a lot of fun and doesn’t require to be in front of the computer all day long.
I have been wearing glasses since 10 y/o and every year it seems to progress. As a kid, I loved to play outside, I still have memories of clear vision from back then. My grandparents had a house outside of town where I would spend all day long playing and exploring outside. But then there was school (in 5th grade we had classes start at noon and until 7pm) music school, books, arts, crafts and less and less time outside. I didn’t have many kids of my age on the street where we lived, so preferred to stay inside.
In 3rd grade I could not see the board. I got my first glasses for distance, but wouldn’t wear them until I could not see the notes on the music sheet. Through my childhood, my mom encouraged me to wear glasses only when was needed. In 7th grade I have tried to get contacts to slow down myopia, but only to go back to the doctor next year and discover that my vision dropped -3D within a year. At that point, in 7th grade I was already -6. So back to glasses I went. As my lenses got thicker and uglier, I refused to wear my glasses. But I was also majorly under prescribed that I remember not being able to see the board in my glasses from the first row in the classroom. I had crazy blur adaptation skills:) It was only when I came to the US I went and got good quality contacts, mostly because I needed to drive a lot and I was just amazed how beautiful and clear the world was around me.
Fast forward, I am 30 and right now my full glass prescription in R:-9.75 L:-9.5. I wear contacts most of the time as I feel very insecure in my glasses. I have been going to a Behavioral Optometrist for the past 6 years and she lets me get away with lower prescription, so I mostly wear 20/40 glasses and weaker contacts. She also doesn’t fully correct me for astigmatism, as it is only about -0.5 in each eye. She does, however, add -0.25 sph in my right eye to compensate for astigmatism. Which I am extremely grateful for, as I believe due past experiences that astigmatism can also be lens induced.
My last visit was in August 2020, during crazy fires in Colorado when everything was hazy and foggy. That’s when my doctor said that my vision dropped -0.5D. I, honestly, had terrible habits during quarantine and lockdown. She pretty much scheduled a surgery consultation for me, as, according to her, “I had no hope, other than surgery”, not just LASIK, but the ICL surgery. As I read more about it, my hair went up, that sounded so scary.
That’s how I found EM. I never got the full prescription glasses, but I had to wear -8 contacts in both eyes for driving. I have tried -8 in both eyes and I just couldn’t get used to them, everything was so weird and I got a sharp pain in my right eye, great night vision though. I went back to my doctor and she let me wear my old prescription, which is L -8, R-7.5 contacts. I can see 20/20 in them. For my differentials, I use -7.5 old glasses.
I have been trying to focus on better habits since August, more outdoor time, minimum up-close time . I am realizing that EM is not only about your eyes, but your entire lifestyle. I used to do silk painting, as my hobby, and with bittersweet feelings had signed up to tennis lessons instead. I go on long walks, hoping to join my husband for my first 14er this summer. I take my son outside as much as I can. I also drive him to preschool which is 40 minutes one way, hoping that the drive counts as a long distance vision.
Unfortunately, no Active Focus success yet. I have tried the book, but can’t do it in my glasses, maybe tiny bit without my glasses, for 1 minute before my eyes start to hurt. I currently wear -8.5 for both eyes glasses as new normalized, but am wondering if I should up them even more. I am worried to go to my full prescription and start from there, as every time I have tried my full prescription glasses I get vertigo, and they are way too strong for the inside. I am not asking for advice, but would just like to hear about your experience at the start.
In October, I had to go back to my doctor to get 20/40 glasses and she said that my left eye could wear a -7.75 contact, but they don’t make them. I got so excited, and switched to -7.5 contacts for both eyes which give me solid 20/30-20/25 vision. But now days are cold and gloomy, and everything seems to be blurry again. I have managed to keep my eyes from getting worse so far, which is a huge success already. Baby steps… I am trying to be more serious about EM to have a fresh start in the Spring.
Any advice on Active Focus or any ideas on how to wear normalized/differentials for stay at home mom would be extremely appreciated. I wear my differentials for computer/chores/ mostly inside. Normalized for outside/driving on a sunny day. I have been in one spot for 6 months and read and listened to everything I could, I really start to think that I am broken as I can’t seem to start my journey. I would be just so happy to get out of such high numbers.
Anyways, thank you so much for reading such a long post and good luck to everyone! Your feedback and stories would be highly appreciated!