Young Adults Addicted To Screens + Myopia = 😢

Check out this e-mail I received recently:

The point, between the lines. Kiddo isn’t in a great place, inside his head.

I get a fair amount of these kind of messages that basically repeat screen addiction that kids feel like they can’t control, along with a sense of worthlessness, bad financial situations, no social life, all the bad bits.

It’s really a massive issue. We say ‘screen addiction’ but that’s really porn addiction, plus displacement of actual friends by video games and social media, the dopamine highs from “likes”, overexposure to ridiculous ideas about wealth and success and physical appearance. Trolling, Internet hate, endless stupid Youtube videos, fake news, echo chambers of ideas in forums.

Kids brains are still developing in their 20’s. And where we’re wired to have guides, elders, wise ones, all that’s been replaced by the toxic well of corporate interests and all the “social media influencer” bullshit.

And myopia. When you tear yourself away from the screen, YOU CAN’T EVEN SEE.

It’s the perfect storm of all the odds against our future generation.

I’d love for us to wrap the endmyopia converation into a larger idea of getting away from screens. Those things can be great if you know how to control them, but at this point in our evolution with technology it’s an entirely unchecked force.

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Is that really English? At first I thought it was a Google translate job…
Really shows how computer addiction can deprive people of the most basic skills, like communicating.

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Well not native English - which is par for the course, well over 50% of regular readers are from countries with English not being the first language. (neither is it mine, but for the most part I try not to judge these things)

You should see lots of my other e-mail! :zipper_mouth_face:

That is so sad! :confused: Incredible how screen and myopia can lead a young person to such a situation. Not a surprise that the World Health Organization now recognizes screen addiction as a disease. The consequences of this addiction have been widely underestimate for years. And this guy is 25, but I saw a TV report showing little children (5 yo) addicted to screens (tablet and phone), at the point they had not learned to speak but had created their own language and had many signs of autism…
Yeah you’re right Jake, getting away from screen is a necessity, especially in the young age when the brain is still developing. The parents should really be made more attentive to the dangers of uncontrolled screen use. In most cases, they just don’t know the side effects.
It would be interesting to know if this guy already had some excessive screen use as he was younger or if it is something that can appear only later.

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My daughter has learning disabilities that required learning to keyboard in early elementary school. She has Asberger’s, and many of her friends are online where she doesn’t have to relate to them face-to-face. We did not let her have a phone until high school, and she had a flip-phone at first until lack of texting became an issue (teacher in her extra-curricular only texted to her group). TV was limited to less than an hour a day until she was out if elementary and shd never devloped the TV or video game habit. Her communication skills are excellent, both spoken and written. She also drafts well by hand snd auto-cad (she’s an engineer).

But she’s now in her 20’s, graduated and in a great job, and addicted to her phone. She’s been unofficially sanctioned about it at work. And she’s started World of Warcraft which puts her in front of a screen constantly. She is sleep-deprived as a result of blue-screening, and needed glasses starting in high school (which I now think is screen related).

When I get further into EndMyopia myself, I will try to get her interested. All of my attempts to get her to cut screen time have met with resistance, but fortunately EM is online.:wink:

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I feel lucky that I was born at the end of the 80s, meaning that the Internet came along when I was a pre-teen, my parents were strict about time passed on the computer AND the speed was crappy anyway…there wasn’t much to get addicted to. There were video games, but didn’t have a lot of these either. Also no phone and I got my first smart phone wayyy later than most people haha.

So I have some kind of an Internet dependency, but it’s not a TRUE addiction I think.

I simply CAN’T imagine how it could be a bright idea to let all those kids have their own smart phone at such young ages. Of course it’s going to create problems later! Ugh. :confused:

On another note Jake, did you just say English is not your first language?? I can’t believe it!! :dizzy_face:

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I am happy to be a Xennial. :slight_smile: Started life before computers were everywhere, can still imagine life without them.

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I joke that in the future only “poor people” will go outside and do sports. If you have money you’ll strap on the VR gear to go surfing in your living room … recorded by those who need the money. People will think wow, that sucks, that guy actually had to go outside and surf for real. Peasant!

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Whenever I see the commercials for VR gadgets I wonder if the people know how ridiculous they look… I recently saw a place at the mall, completely dark room lit up only by video game screens. So you go there to play whatever gaming system is available. And you just sit. In the dark. Staring at screens…

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That was my whole story, basically. I feel more awkward than people my age because I started video gaming at 10 years old. I was attending an all-girls school so it really wasn’t common to be a geek there, people were always trying to be charismatic and made fun of those who were not.

There’s this large “learning gap” with some things about the REAL WORLD and emotional intelligence that I am experiencing, and often I am finding myself trying to “catch up.” It felt like something that couldn’t be reversed. But IT CAN BE. There are so many things people like me can do to go back (aside from vision improvement) although it will also take years to get better. You can also measure “awkwardness” and see what variables reduce it, then just increase those variables and keep being persistent and changing…

In a way, it’s also people like me who find uncommon things like Endmyopia, because I reached the “bottom” of my self-esteem much earlier than the other people. Now that I’m older, I noticed how those people I used to look up to in the past are now the addicts in their adult years (as technology became more and more mind-controlling) and they started wearing glasses as well :confused: And earlier than those people, I’ve already become fed up. And I can’t physically handle NOT SLEEPING USING SCREENS THE WHOLE NIGHT anymore (but those people that just started are still doing it and I’m no longer in the same timeline as them). I can no longer handle using screens for MINDLESS ENTERTAINMENT (though I’m still “addicted” to more wholesome resources from the internet… I guess there’s really just a transition phase…)

My only consolation for my addiction to your lovely wholesome resources (and to writing as well) is that I’m still in the differential phase and always at edge of blur :sweat_smile: After the differential phase there will be no chance to stay here anymore. So I’m making the most of it and I’ve been my most active in the EM community now even while not being too much of an old member. I’m so glad the method gives a leeway at the start, but obviously when you want to take something very seriously, such as when you want to move away from hobbyist to professional at any activity, you have to start letting go of other things.

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My mom said no to my dad’s suggestion to get the 2 for 1 iPhone offer saying she only needs her flip phone to call someone to pick her up from dialysis…the beauty of a simple life, not needing to read each piece of news when it happens, or read what people say when they say it. Screen-a-holics, like work-a-holics or shop-a-holics, maybe also trying to fill a ‘hole’ in their life that can only be filled with real living.

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My friends see my flip phone and ask why I don’t get a smartphone. I tell them I have one in a closet at home. :rofl: I honestly prefer life without the smartphone. We will be out at park days with our kids and I watch the moms scrolling on their phones. It’s interestingly weird.

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Like aliens took over.

Especially in Hong Kong, I make a sport out of trying to find one single person in the subway or on the bus not looking at their phone. Sometimes I won’t find a single one.

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How are birthday parties nowadays? It’s so anti-social, it’s not even funny anymore. Put that stupid screen away and talk to your friends

The degradation of the human race is in full progress, sadly :frowning:

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We were at a theme park last week and at one point my husband and I had to stop to look at two guys sitting next to each other looking at their phones and a lady standing with a baby in a stroller across from them also looking at her phone. It was like they had suddenly stopped everything to get out their phones.They reminded me of sculptures making some sort of social awareness point but they were real!

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Not only is social media anti-social, it’s offensive. My sister and I were conversing by text and when I decided to call her, she said she didn’t answer because she wanted to finish her text to me. Another friend was invited to a Dodgers game and she would not stop texting her love interest. Plus social media brings out all the internet meanies out, one reason I refuse Twitter…FB is already flooded with them.

There’s a time and place for smartphone use. I’m setting times to look at my phone, but when I park anywhere I can’t break the resistance to look if I have any notifications. I turned off alot of them.

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Notifications, such as facebook likes and new messages on your messenger… it has a lot to do with dopamine!
And the social media guys knows that! I switch all notification off if I want to spend time in the nature or (even better) let my smartphone at home or in the car.
That stupid picture you would like to take with you smartphone isn’t much interesting for you on the next day. And I see a lot of people take pictures of trees and woods. Isn’t it better to just visit and enjoy the nature? (And let the stupid devices elsewhere)? I think people would be much healthier.

But you can try this one at home: When your smartphone rings or you get a notification, measure the amount of time within the ringtone and your “need to grab your phone”. :slight_smile:
If you can ignore it 15 minutes you are good! :stuck_out_tongue:

I’ve found an interesting article btw:

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In Germany, it is also getting more and more like that. Interestingly, if you look at people using their smart phones, almost all of them wear glasses. For people looking out of the window, on the other hand, the percentage of people not wearing glasses is higher. Coincidence? :wink:

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Hey Michael,

in Austria too! Unfortunately. :frowning:
It’s really frustrated to know that more and more playgrounds for kids (outside) are left empty and you can’t find any child playing there. Not always but in most times. I went regulary with my kids to playgrounds outside and love to watch them there instead to look in that stupid smartphone. :wink:

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In China, you can’t even find playgrounds. I wonder what the small kids do there in their free time. Probably sitting in front of screens. Or maybe they don’t have any free time because they start learning like crazy before even entering Kindergarten.

I just hope they don’t stop building playgrounds. It’s one of the great things about europe for little kids. Having no playgrounds would certainly be another stepping stone to even more myopia…

Cheers Michael

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